Email is one of those things that while simplifying our lives to a great extent... also suffers from the "Lost in Translation" syndrome. Statements that were perhaps not meant to be, come across as extremely hostile, nosy, or even cruel.
This is not an adoption blog. This is barely a "mommy blog" unless you are supremely literal and then you may consider that I am a mom and I blog. This is a space to be, at various times, stupid, honest, perhaps amusing, and/or rarely interesting.
Typically my blogging reflects the day to day minutia of my life... the struggles and the funny of a very ordinary life. I am not out to conquer the Internet nor do I feel that I have "any responsibility to the adoption community in terms of content."
There are many (MANY) adoption focused blogs out there... some are listed in the second half of my blogroll... these are the blogs which focus on the decision, paperchase, wait, referral, travel, adjustment and new lives as families... they are tender and hopeful and I enjoy following them... it's a privilege to be allowed into someone's life... to be a given a small slice of their greatest desire. These blogs help sustain those waiting, they inspire those wondering and they comfort those struggling...
This is not that blog.
I realize that our family is, to use your word, blessed. But my job is not to show my family to you, or anyone else, as Exhibit A : "Why You Should Adopt".
Why I don't post more about adoption? Quite frankly, I don't think about it. My day does not revolve around the fact that my daughter was born in China. It does revolve around laundry, wine, flea control in the summer months, and Trader Joes.
We are not victimized by racism, rudely approached on street corners, shunned by our family or misunderstood by our community.
I have been to a couple of "Chinese-y" type group events and I left them both before they were over... to sit in a room with a group of strangers and focus on the issues and problems that I am not experiencing seems to me to be a supreme waste of time... I could sit there and make lists about all the potential things I need to look out for, but I prefer to be surprised.
The best advice I have received as far as raising my daughter came from the mother of a now 20 something daughter who was born in Korea. She told me, Make sure Eva has some good friends who have her same beginning... because when Nikki struggled with adoption/birth family issues, the only people who really helped her were those girls who "knew" what she was going through... I was there for love and support, but they were there for understanding.
Second best piece of advice is from a dear friend who was adopted as an infant - Send her to me, I'll help her... it's not about understanding, it's about acceptance.
So while I guess (ok, not really) I can appreciate your "concern" about my "lack of honesty" about being a "bi-racial" family, I just want to go ahead and tell you - don't worry about it. We're good.
And I think we're just both going to have to realize that "although you like my writing" this isn't the blog for you.