Sunday, March 26, 2006

B.S.

Does anyone out there think the following qualifies as an apology...

If I said something that hurt your feelings, I'm sorry.

Huh. I don't either.

19 comments:

savymanda said...

Nope...in fact I beleive manipulative statments like that warrant their own apology.
But,
Do tell.
I'm intrigued...

eastcoastermomma said...

A sentance like that just makes me angrier than whatever it was that caused the problem in the first place.


I hope you are ok. That post sounds pretty dejected.

Stephanie said...

Uh oh - I wouldn't want to be the person who said that to you!

J.D. said...

That's sort of an apology without actually apologizing, if that makes any sense.

Sorry you're feeling badly. Email me if you need to talk to someone with a warped sense of humor.

Lisa S. said...

Oh I just HATE It when people do that which implies that they didn't do anything wrong after all which to me just makes the apology WORTHLESS and just token words thrown out there. I had a boss that totally horrified me in front of a bunch of people and then when I called her on it she said "I'm sorry if YOU took what I said WRONG" thus putting it all on me. Needless to say I don't work for her anymore. Here let me give you a big hug!

Lisa said...

Oh, God. My husband is the King of that "apology" style. He's an Engineer so he lives in a world of: If THIS, then THAT. My world is a little different. If you're a dumbass, apologize. Period.

northern stargirl said...

That type of comment always makes me want to scream! My husband and I have had some of our biggest arguments over that passive agressive statement.

Holly said...

That is a totally insenstive statement.
I've heard that a lot. Ususally from female family members. Even my husband knows better than to use that lame response.

Gracencameronsmomy said...

Then there is the "I am sorry you feel that way" which is kind of the same thing. so doesn't count as an apology...
Lisa

ciodude said...

I have to admit that might be something I might say if I felt the other person was overly sensitive to a remark I made. If I felt I had not said anything wrong and that they had no reason to be offended, then its the middle of the road, mediocre way of saying it.

Is it better to give a better sounding apology and not mean it?

Anonymous said...

I don't think there's anything wrong with that if someone is TRULY sorry they hurt someone's feelings and TRULY does not know how/why. I have to admit I'm a bumbling idiot sometimes and I have an overly sensitive mother, so I say a LOT of things that bother her. But, that is usually not the case with that kind of "apology".

M3 (Mary-Mia) said...

Sounds pretty weak to me. It is better than the one that *someone* in my family says sometimes: "I'm sorry you were upset by what I said." Oooooooo that one just makes me hit the roof.

Joannah said...

That sounds like something a guy would say!

Michelle said...

It took many, many years of marital couseling for my husband to learn not to say any variation of the above "apologies". I especially hated that one. Yuck. Sorry someone used it on you!

Nicki said...

Yes I hate it, holding out for more details though....

Nicki said...

I said yes, what I meant was yes it sucks, no it is not an apology unless they can come up with why they are apologizing.... this is why date night ended in a burger at the drive thru!

rubyiscoming said...

This person needs therapy - and to get over themselves!!!! :)
Passive aggressive B.S.

Tori said...

Mmm! It depends if it was Hugh that apologized.
If it is someone that means a lot to us we are more sensitive to their words and disect everything they say.
I said that to you the other day though (or words like it) and it was totally genuine.
Must have the WHOLE story Morning GLory@@!!##
N O W

Kristin said...

Tori - I'm not talking about you
;-)