Thursday, July 10, 2008

Getting All Romantical...


Wayyyy back in October, I questioned you all about Date Nights... do you have one and if so, how often?  My other question for you is this - does Date Night mean just the two of you, or do you sometimes/often invite others to join you?

Hugh and I go out a couple of times a month... and without exception, we are with another couple, if not couples... it's great to be able to catch up with each other and with our close friends... and, as I am the official Social Director of this marriage, this is all my doing, my planning.

And it's big time fun.  Hopefully Usually, we have a couple of drinks, a long dinner, laugh and talk... and leave feeling all good and cozy and couple-y and in luuuuvvv...

But, are the rest of you Internets out there gazing into eyes?  Spoon feeding each other bites of mousse?

Men, do you prefer nights out alone with your woman?  

Women, do you want to playing footsie under a table for deux?

Tell me so I can gage my level of normal.

20 comments:

CDJ said...

I would be all about the other couples because Hubbz and I spend enough time alone together as it is... we both work from home. Cooooooooozy!

p.s. My word verification is "nonosad" as if to say, "Don't be sad Kristin, you're perfectly normal!" :-)

Kristin said...

Jill - That's it exactly... we're alone a lot... the kids go to bed and we have plenty of "us" time... complete with wine and HBO.

Yes, we are wild.

furiousBall said...

for me, if it's other couple involved, i'm cool with that just as long as i have some one on one time with my lady at the end of the evening and by one on one time i mean, i want to be on her.

Kristin said...

Furious - Absolutely!

Mom of Three said...

After about nine years, we have finally gotten to a point where we do date night (youngest just turned three). This was because we could never afford sitters. Our solution? Trade night for night with another couple! They have three, we have three! Nobody has to spend on babysitting, the kids get together at the non-dater's house (because hotels are expensive), and we each go out, just in couples until 11 p.m.! The great part about it is that she nags me to use our night so that she can get another one as soon as possible!

jenontheedge said...

It never occurred to me to include another couple on date nights. We get out alone 3-4 times a year, plus we have lunches out around once a month. My sister takes the kids for five nights every June and my mother gets them a couple of weekends a year.

My word verification is "stick" -- as in, we're sticks in the mud, I guess.

Tori said...

Well most of our date nights are spent with you so....

What to say?

It's getting easier to spend time alono with Big Wave...I used to always fret about the kids, the sitters, getting home on time. Now they are older, hanging out together is more fun and relaxing. We are, of course, weird though because we never really dated for more than a minute in the early months before I was pregnant, so we never really worked out how to date!

When all's said and done - our couples dates are more frequent and fabulous....

Kristin said...

Mom of 3 - That's a great plan as I know all to well what a small fortune is is to pay anyone to sit for three kids...

Jen - Yes, we are fans of the lunch-dates as well...

Tor - I am looking for a sitter for EvaJun on Monday afternoon and as my kids are gone as are yours as well as my dad... I'm totally stumped!

Chrissie said...

Oh gawd no, I don't want to spend a "date night" alone with dear hubby.

Its usually all about fun with friends (that, I might add, are single, so we just love hearing all their single-life woes). I live and work with my husband -- the last thing I want to do is dine with him alone (and I mean that in the nicest way possible) :-)

Los said...

We have our date nights - usually a nice romantic dinner at a restaurant or at home ... always just the two of us. We try to do this once a month (we should do it more often, though).

Daniella said...

Our date nights almost always include either one or more couples (I too am the planner). We are together a lot as the business my husband does now is from home. We do often go out to lunch alone when the boy is in school which is fun. We just recently started having dinner alone if the marina we are docked as has a restaurant/bar in eye shot of our boat and the child stays on board. He's loving his little bit of freedom and we are enjoying having conversation that is not interrupted about the latest lego kit that is coming out. There has been no footsie, I'll need to look in why not :)

Pollyanna said...

Yeah, when we have a date night it's usually with another couple, and that's a very very good thing. And I like it. And it's fun. The end.

carrie said...

I just realized that we are dating our best friends.

And you know, I think I am fine with that (you know, in a totally non-swinger kind of way)!

Kristin said...

Chrissie - I think I am coming from the same place... I love my husband, but I want to celebrate on our nights out!

Los -Yes, you should!

Daniella - It's great when the kids get old enough to mind themselves for a couple of hours... it's changed our lives!

Jodi - ;-)

Carrie - That's it! We're dating our friends... perfectly put!

Becky said...

we mix it up...sometimes we go alone and other times we go with other people. depends on what we're doing!

Amy Y said...

We go out with other couple more often than alone... But ironically, tonight we're headed out together alone for the first time in months ~ sad but exciting!

Karen and Bob said...

Well, considering that we didn't have a child for the first 13 years of our marriage, no we don't do date nights any more. If we go out either as a couple or with some friends, our little one comes along! We still get plenty of alone time since she is only 2.5 and goes to bed at 8:00.

slackermommy said...

We prefer other couples because it spices up the conversation and gives us something to talk about rather than the usual. We don't gaze lovingly or spoon feed each other but we do hold hands. Then we get drunk and have nasty sex like when we were dating. Sadly we only do this a few times a year.

Anonymous said...

Just curious--on "date night" alone, do you both
avoid all topics having to do with your children?
If not, try it!

jennster said...

as much as i absolutely enjoy and love my husband's company... i really like going out with our friends. it's more fun. you know? and i feel like we have plenty of alone time, so we're not lacking in date nights, or whatever. if we had those, i'd want to have party nights with friends for sure. hell, you're talking to the chick who wished that we had like 3 couples with us on our honeymoon for pete's sake. lol