Monday, April 30, 2007

Many many moons ago when I first confronted the issue of trolls on the Internet, I was given sage advice - the general suggestion was to just ignore it, not give them the pleasure of addressing them in a post... delete and move on.

But, you know I am a little over it... there are so many blogs out there... BIG blogs written by very popular people who make money and a living off their parenting adventures... so why hassle me?

I don't like opening up my email and finding hate filled messages that include such gems as, "You are a terrible mother, I can't believe China gave you a baby!" and "The CCAA (china center for adoption affairs) reads these blogs and you are risking all of our adoptions by your careless treatment of your children!".

*sigh*

For the meantime, if any of you need me, I'll be at elv.


*** edited on 5/1 ***

I am just back to thank you all for your supportive words... I am not upset about what was said to me, hell, call me a bad mother all you want, I know it's nonesense.

However, in this little corner of the Internet where the Chinese adoption folks abound, there are a few among us who enjoy causing problems for others and I am not willing to open myself or my family up to that possible grief.

I will be at my review blog and at elv for a bit... I may be back soon, I may stay away for good, it all depends on how things play out.

38 comments:

S. said...

Are you kidding me? What is with people?

Wendy said...

It's nice that some people have so much time on their hands that they can harass bloggers. Geez!

minijonb said...

that sucks. sorry you have to put up with ass-hatery like that.

Melissa said...

I've been lucky so far ... I haven't had one yet :::KNOCKING ON WOOD:::

I'm just biding my time, I know it will come.

C.J. said...

WTF?

Jennifer said...

Are you seriously going private? Man that sucks....

I hate those damn spoilers. Why can't they just shut up??

I had a few. Some really bad one once. They emailed me and told me I would be saved, eventually, if I would just "get over it" and stop my bitching. HE.

Ninotchka said...

Are you kidding me? GIVE ME A FLIPPIN' BREAK! Sorry you have to put up with that crap, hun. We love you!

Jodi said...

I am sorry you have to put up with that too. If they don't like you then they shouldn't read. And why in the heck do they think you are such a bad parent? GOOD LAWD. They need to get a LIFE.

P.S. PLEASE add me to the secret blog list. I still can't get in. Maybe cuz my user name is not my blogger name??? I don't know.....it's my email address.....

crazymumma said...

I always comfort myself with knowing that they have to wake up inside their own heads.

Sorry you got trolled. It's lousy.

Gracencameronsmomy said...

What the F is wrong with people? I can't think of anything you could have written that would make someone respond like that...stupid people...

Recovering Wino said...

Well, you know that the people that write those emails are the best possible role models a child could have. I mean, who wouldn't want to be raised by the wonderful woman that intervened in my adoption? Hardy har har...

It's the healthy people that get attacked..don't you know? Take the persecution as a compliment:)

Jill said...

There are a lot of nutjobs out there. Don't let the crazies chase you off.

Shelley said...

Oh, for the love of Pete! Leave this woman alone, dipshits!

Shelley said...

No ...really. Log off and go find a hobby.

jessie200 said...

Hi, I just wanted to say how sorry I am that so many people are think it is their duty to make you feel so rotton! (these orders are old and need to be filled as a priority) My father used to say, 'Point one finger and five will come back at you', you may not be able to point those fingers today, but I say Karma! Good things happen to good people! I am de-luking to say that after nearly a year of reading you, I am not sure how I will get through the week without your commentary! Is there anyway I can join your private blog?

Pendullum said...

I was coming back to add a comment to your NYCity story when I read this...
Sad, so bloody sad...

Rach said...

Its funny how some like to preach about others, but how perfect is their life? Sorry that you've had to put up with this insensitive hassle.

Jill said...

Oh my God! What is wrong with people? Is all that from the picture of Eva in the cab? Haters, if you're reading these comments.... get a life of your own and stay out of other people's!

kim said...

theres no accounting for such stupid people Kristin, i wish i could say they dont matter but i know how it gets to you anyway :(
I just hope that the people who really love having you around make up for those assholes *hugs*

PS: add me to the list, ditzymoi@yahoo.com id hate to loose touch!

Kayce said...

What the F! NOT OKAY!

Anonymous said...

That is really f-ed up" People can be so stupid.

Invernessca said...

I am just so sorry. I love reading about you and your kids--you are funny and brave and just snarky enough. (oh, and a GREAT mom, unless you lie through your teeth and omit the beatings and stuff). I'm just toying with this whole blog thing for myself so far. I think all of us who love to read and write, well, just love the whole thing..except the troll factor. That is so outside anything I am ready for. Closest in my experience is the guy who kind of stalks at the waitress job, or the psycho playgroup mom who heads the mean phone tree when you piss her off, but at least those are somewhat "known" entities. cyberspace is a little scarier that way. please keep being yourself anyway.

Tuesday Girl said...

People. I swear.

Perrin said...

What, I don't get it at all? Why do people do this? Perhaps I'm just too damn mid-western naive but I don't get it at all.

Are you still giving out the p-word to the new blog? If so, can I come along to play? Too many rainbows and ladybugs and not enough snark make for a seriously dull life.

rubyiscoming said...

And funny how they are all named ANONYMOUS, eh?? Ugh...stupid fart blossoms.

I wanna be part of the in-crowd and see your way cool new blog

TBG Happenings said...

I am trying to figure out what you could have written that the china adoption nazi's found sooo awful?? I don't get it.....people are freaks. Lets stay away from the freaks.....

As far as trying to be mother of the year....some days I just shoot for good enough.

See you over at elv

-maryellen

Mrs. Chicky said...

Aw, hon. People suck. You're a great mom who obviously loves that little girl you adopted, not to mention your two boys.

Screw 'em.

Grim Reality Girl said...

I'm sorry people have sucked. You don't deserve that. I'd love an invite to read your new blog... You are worth keeping up with (especially now that the semester from hell has ended and I have time to read for pleasure!!!) Wishing you and the kids the best.... and bird poop on those who put you into hiding.

hautemama said...

Sorry to hear this. Us humans can be so weird. Please don't go far away, we'll miss you too much!

Sandra W said...

I recently discovered your blog. I am a mother, but not through adoption. I love everything that you have had to say, because you are honest, and if people don't understand that, then it's their loss. Good luck

carrie said...

Mean people suck.

People who harrass others based on the limited amount of information they gleen from their blogs suck.

Judgemental people suck too.

I am sorry.

I hope you know how much I appreciate all you've had to put up with in the past year. Please know that you inspire and speak to many of us more than you know.

Don't put yourself through unecessary pain, it's not worth it. The mean people aren't worth it.

Carrie

blackbeltmama said...

What's up with all the trolls lately? They're popping up everywhere, sort of like spring flowers. There are at least three other people talking about similar topics this week.

I have a lot of trolls on my hometown newspaper's blog. I mostly delete and ignore, but once I fired back and it felt so good. Here's hoping they go back under their bridge soon.

dgm said...

This is why I don't make it too easy for people to email me.

We'll miss Eva Las Vegas!

Slackermommy said...

Sorry for the shitty emails. What's wrong with people? Would they say it to your face? I truly believe in writing only what I would say to someone personally. Unfortunately the world is full of insecure self-righteous people who put others down to feel better about themselves. Maybe they are just jealous because they can't get a baby from China.

Chaos Control said...

You're joking right? Just letting off steam? You're not really thinking of not coming back, are you?? Tell me it isn't so!

Los said...

Unfortunately, there are a-holes out there trying to rain on everyone's parade, no matter what good intentions someone may have. Hang in there!

Joannah said...

I'm sorry, Kristin. I wish people would just live and let live.

Lulu (Dan's cat) said...

Where the hell can a gorgeous kitty like me get a belly rub in this town?

MEOW!!!