Sunday, February 25, 2007
Lucy, I'm Home!
The other morning my girlfriend, Nicki, phoned... she had just come from a breakfast with some of the women in her MOMS Club...
Imagine her surprise when not one, but two of the women present began discussing their allowances.
From their husbands.
Like what my kids get every Friday.
One woman gets $300 a week. This is her money for all household items, including the market and baby supplies, and any non-essentials she may want...
She was on her way to have her passport renewed (about $100) and, yes, the money was coming out of her allowance.
The other woman didn't say how much she received on a weekly basis, but she did mention that on the weeks she works as a substitute teacher, her husband gives her nothing...
Neither woman has a credit card, ATM or access to the checkbooks.
Nicki said she sat there, her mouth practically hanging open, in total shock.
Which is the same look I had on my face as she told me the story.
In our home, money is money. "X" goes into the checking account and "Y" into savings and "Z" into investments/long term planning.
Hugh will occasionally ask me, "What is this charge?" and I will glance over and say, "Shoes."
I will occasionally ask Hugh, "What is this charge?" and he will glance over and say, "For the boat."
And that is the sum total of our double checking.
I trust him not to bankrupt us.
He trusts me not to bankrupt us.
But, here are these women...
Educated, funny and kind women...
Who, along with their husbands, made the decision to give up jobs and stay home and raise their children.
Jobs where they made more than $300 a week.
And so many of us are still undervaluing our worth.
I am curious, how does your family handle finances?