Friday, January 20, 2006
Which One is Chinese?
For starters, thank you to all of you who posted such sweet messages, both here and at my email address... you are all right: Jack is an amazing kid and we'll be fine (except of course, that I am dead).
I have a question I would like to throw out there... to what extent do you think the adoption of a Chinese (or any internationally adopted child) child will defines a family?
I ask because just yesterday we were asked to be interviewed for an article in the OC Register on Chinese adoption/Chinese New Year... we declined. Hugh and I just decided that we are a family, NOT a family/with-adopted-child (like model/actress) and we really feel that, now that we have been home a year, our focus is more on Eva as our daughter... not as: EVA-OUR-CHINESE-KID.
Now, I am a huge advocate of international adoption (duh!) and I hate to miss any opportunity to shove how great it is down people's throats, but, especially in light of some of our issues with Jack, we really felt that we had to pass on this particular situation.
I worry about always singling Eva out because she is Chinese... I really want people to look at us and see our family... maybe I am naive and that will never happen, but, I do know that, in our home, I need the attention to be on all my kids... this is probably a very different issue for folks without kids already...
I am sure they will find a great family to focus on and I may be a little put out when I read the article, but, I know that this one small thing is a big step towards "normalizing" our life.