tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post3914089504778969376..comments2023-09-06T09:02:33.625-07:00Comments on It's All Fun & Games...: Maybe, Not Such A Happy PostKristinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15120658117796151128noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-18734567411073245582008-07-31T10:55:00.000-07:002008-07-31T10:55:00.000-07:00thank you for posting this..i've never had a misca...thank you for posting this..i've never had a miscarriage but i can imagine that if i had, this post would bring me great comfort.Becky at lifeoutoffocushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08281237800161723776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-25167721591776370652008-07-29T14:18:00.000-07:002008-07-29T14:18:00.000-07:00I got chills, the good kind, when I read this. It ...I got chills, the good kind, when I read this. It was so poignant and well said. You are a strong, wonderful woman, and above all you are an amazing mother to your three beautiful children.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-44094851948036544352008-07-28T08:08:00.000-07:002008-07-28T08:08:00.000-07:00It just plain sucks except if you were here, I'd e...It just plain sucks except if you were here, I'd elaborate on that with a slew of profanity.<BR/><BR/>During our infertility shit, so many people said so many things trying to be kind and all I wanted to say was "How the hell would you know what I'm going through?" <BR/><BR/>And with that said, I don't know this pain that you feel but I do know pain and loss. It never goes away. It stays with youGenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12695887425584284936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-61250490827656305712008-07-27T14:07:00.000-07:002008-07-27T14:07:00.000-07:00I suffered a miscarriage at 17 weeks. It took me s...I suffered a miscarriage at 17 weeks. It took me so long to get over it-and everyone around me needed me to be over it in about two weeks tops. Despite the idiotic platitudes, it really is a very big deal.<BR/><BR/>Great post.Mrs. G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01171997573144385692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-2533307768319537482008-07-27T11:55:00.000-07:002008-07-27T11:55:00.000-07:00I totally agree. I didn't have a blog when I misca...I totally agree. I didn't have a blog when I miscarried. I did post to message boards but it isn't the same as a blog. I really could have use a place to write my feelings and get virtual hugs in the process.<BR/><BR/>I'm so sorry about your loss. Every so often I wonder about the one I lost. I take comfort in believing these "lost" babies are angels.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-13673239803157388432008-07-27T11:26:00.000-07:002008-07-27T11:26:00.000-07:00I'm sorry for your loss. Hugs!I'm sorry for your loss. Hugs!Rachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15726363718329475877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-48757883820484202992008-07-26T08:26:00.000-07:002008-07-26T08:26:00.000-07:00Beautifully written post, my friend.Beautifully written post, my friend.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-16321999591597681022008-07-26T07:27:00.000-07:002008-07-26T07:27:00.000-07:00I think, having never had a miscarriage, it is the...I think, having never had a miscarriage, it is the same feelings people have after a failed ivf attempt. you see the little embryo that could and when he/she doesn't stick, you feel you failed and lost someone.....the pain it seems is similar in its devastation. it is good that people now actually describe the pain, instead of glossing it.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13556769238466112740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-70854338214397573692008-07-25T23:53:00.000-07:002008-07-25T23:53:00.000-07:00this is the best post i have ever read on this top...this is the best post i have ever read on this topic. thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-23440637057513372532008-07-25T23:02:00.000-07:002008-07-25T23:02:00.000-07:00I've heard all those "quotes", and you're right, I...I've heard all those "quotes", and you're right, I couldn't stand to hear them. I just wanted to have my babies acknowledged and to hear "I'm sorry"...sincerely. I especially hated when someone would say, "I know how you feel". No, you don't and never will unless you've been there yourself.<BR/><BR/>Most people don't know how many miscarriages I have had, or how my ectopic pregnancy almost cost Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01299524637444373699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-46192071631485527912008-07-25T21:01:00.000-07:002008-07-25T21:01:00.000-07:00"for the best" or "wasn't meant to be" or "God's w..."for the best" or "wasn't meant to be" or "God's will"... These are all of the things I told myself when we lost our first. We were not trying to get pregnant and the whole thing was such a shock. The loss would have been even worse had we really known what we had lost. Two kids later I get is so much more now. I know that sounds horrible -- but not having a child I didn't truly realize to Grim Reality Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02080844233014641611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-33536736304447610942008-07-25T20:05:00.000-07:002008-07-25T20:05:00.000-07:00Grandma J - You are absolutely right... people do ...Grandma J - You are absolutely right... people do mean well and I never took anything said to me as shallow or uncaring... they are the same things I said to myself... it's hard to be around those who are suffering or grieving... people feel uncomfortable and sometimes guilty for their own good fortune... I've learned, through my own experience, that sometimes, brutal honesty of the, "This sux" Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15120658117796151128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-20552250744932975052008-07-25T19:42:00.000-07:002008-07-25T19:42:00.000-07:00I'm so sorry for the pain you must bear, I can't e...I'm so sorry for the pain you must bear, I can't even imagine.<BR/><BR/>When people say some of those catch phrases, they mean well.<BR/><BR/>When my grandson was having a really hard time with leukemia, and he had to have a feeding tube, people said things like, "at least you have good doctors" or "the survival rate is good these days".<BR/>Or even worse, "He looks good" (he didn't). I told Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16036374022323687122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-34215087990467936312008-07-25T19:04:00.000-07:002008-07-25T19:04:00.000-07:00Shit - this post took me back to that awful time K...Shit - this post took me back to that awful time Kristin.<BR/><BR/>I remember you calling me on the way to that appointment and then I never heard anything more.<BR/><BR/>Hugh called us later and told us.<BR/><BR/>When I saw you, I can say that I have never seen you look so pale (you had of course lost gazillions of blood) but you also looked empty. You actually looked 100 percent better after Torihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14028416476568962300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-5126396116719140632008-07-25T17:47:00.000-07:002008-07-25T17:47:00.000-07:00Years ago I had a miscarriage in the very early pa...Years ago I had a miscarriage in the very early part of my first trimester of my first pregnancy. If not for the fact that we were trying, I might not have even known I was pregnant and would have thought I was merely having a very heavy period. Those few weeks that I was pregnant were the happiest of my life. I felt so beautiful and womanly and like I had the best secret in the world and when Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-13108478384390338852008-07-25T13:20:00.000-07:002008-07-25T13:20:00.000-07:00Thanks for the post today. I've been missing my 2 ...Thanks for the post today. I've been missing my 2 lost babies a lot lately and it's been nearly 7 and 5 yrs since they've been gone. It does get easier, but you never forget. The worst thing someone said to me after my son was stillborn was "it's God's will". That's the day I stopped believing in God.<BR/><BR/>Hugs.Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00585765386608759975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-50989785265342893902008-07-25T13:17:00.000-07:002008-07-25T13:17:00.000-07:00Timeless post, perfect.Timeless post, perfect.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-22624616795454178592008-07-25T11:31:00.000-07:002008-07-25T11:31:00.000-07:00I think having my twins was the only thing that ma...I think having my twins was the only thing that made me better after my miscarriage of triplets (woah)2 years ago. <BR/>I miss those babies, they were wanted and loved.Tuesday Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01816799873933925204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-41002613038113424092008-07-25T10:50:00.000-07:002008-07-25T10:50:00.000-07:00Sometimes all we need is a big hug, and a sympathe...Sometimes all we need is a big hug, and a sympathetic ear and nothing more than that.<BR/><BR/>I am so sorry, and yet I see that yes - that baby brought you to where you are now.<BR/><BR/>And I think it's okay that the pain never goes away completely, I think to expect that it would, would be denying that life that was there and that soul.<BR/><BR/>I am not so eloquent today, but I hope you carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04038972194323564240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-53929353034200665622008-07-25T10:44:00.000-07:002008-07-25T10:44:00.000-07:00You are all so sweet... I am fine and I don't want...You are all so sweet... I am fine and I don't want this post to give you the impression I am not... but, as Kimberly and Anon and TBG said, it just never quite goes away.Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15120658117796151128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-37713142823945442672008-07-25T10:38:00.000-07:002008-07-25T10:38:00.000-07:00All I can say is that I am SO deeply sorry. I hope...All I can say is that I am SO deeply sorry. I hope that you find strength from the love and support of your family and friends.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for visiting me.Retro Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09259322078514798788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-13774118942579287172008-07-25T10:36:00.000-07:002008-07-25T10:36:00.000-07:00I miscarried at 5 weeks (10 years ago) and I still...I miscarried at 5 weeks (10 years ago) and I still think about it. It never goes away.Kimberlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14084242509519566587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-47741882578666029292008-07-25T10:35:00.000-07:002008-07-25T10:35:00.000-07:00I'm sorry for your loss, Kristin :(I can't imagine...I'm sorry for your loss, Kristin :(<BR/>I can't imagine knowing where to begin with that kind of pain.Amy Yhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06303953793008491241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-87468831854625053642008-07-25T10:10:00.000-07:002008-07-25T10:10:00.000-07:00You're right. people don't know what to say and I ...You're right. people don't know what to say and I am sure I have said my share of dumb and insensitive things. As a society, we've become very casual about miscarriages because they unfortunately happen to a lot of women and therefore we treat them as common and not for the proper loss which they are.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-77626763571069936852008-07-25T10:01:00.000-07:002008-07-25T10:01:00.000-07:00Sometimes people just don't know what to say...and...Sometimes people just don't know what to say...and the dumbest things come out of their pie holes!<BR/><BR/>"Sorry" "I am here if you need me.' these all work....only a few people offered these helpful words when I lost a baby at 12 weeks. I have never been so sad as I was during that time. <BR/><BR/>I too think about that baby .....TBG Happeningshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16949913196914697258noreply@blogger.com