tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post3265897940315353475..comments2023-09-06T09:02:33.625-07:00Comments on It's All Fun & Games...: Post #347 on the Dangers Of OVERTHINKINGKristinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15120658117796151128noreply@blogger.comBlogger45125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-41074501605864161542009-11-21T20:23:18.306-08:002009-11-21T20:23:18.306-08:00Who knows where to download XRumer 5.0 Palladium? ...Who knows where to download XRumer 5.0 Palladium? <br />Help, please. All recommend this program to effectively advertise on the Internet, this is the best program!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-59648986195297286442007-10-26T11:56:00.000-07:002007-10-26T11:56:00.000-07:00ijy9P7 Nice Article.ijy9P7 Nice Article.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-68681205265996725722007-10-26T09:45:00.000-07:002007-10-26T09:45:00.000-07:00raiD03raiD03Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-71828517350129069812007-10-25T23:50:00.000-07:002007-10-25T23:50:00.000-07:00ncTJG1 Your blog is great. Articles is interesting...ncTJG1 Your blog is great. Articles is interesting!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-62340385493433062402007-10-16T13:36:00.000-07:002007-10-16T13:36:00.000-07:00I know that fierce love. I am a mom. And fierce ...I know that fierce love. I am a mom. And fierce love is relentless and honest and tries to watch in every direction. The fact that you have adoption issues adds to the mix enormously. I think you are most concerned with how your child will feel about the appearance. Because it is really about them all the time. And I think they will see it as making them unique and special like my daughter Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-53719519463411723172007-10-14T19:36:00.000-07:002007-10-14T19:36:00.000-07:00This is why Eva is lucky to have YOU for a mommy. ...This is why Eva is lucky to have YOU for a mommy. You pine and worry over the details. You love her with your heart and soul. You are consumed with making things perfect for her and you. You are honest and can share insecurities -- we all have them. You worry about the physicality, but you bring the spirituality. I understand your insecurities, but I assure you that the differences are whatGrim Reality Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02080844233014641611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-232254022142165762007-10-14T16:29:00.000-07:002007-10-14T16:29:00.000-07:00Everything you just said? It's the same thing tha...Everything you just said? It's the same thing that I think about when I think about adopting.<BR/><BR/>Honest and open and the same reason why your daughter will probably never have the problems you fear...simply because you're aware enough to listen to her if she needs more from you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-15604380767099706052007-10-14T13:45:00.000-07:002007-10-14T13:45:00.000-07:00I think some of your readers have missed the point...I think some of your readers have missed the point. It's not about not wanting Eva to have strong Asian women in her life, even if it is "the greatest gift". It's about a slow realization that IA isn't all about red threads. IA brings with it new complications that develop over time. As the mother to 2 children who are Korean by birth, I can fully understand your wish to "claim ownership".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-9861004822042880142007-10-13T10:39:00.000-07:002007-10-13T10:39:00.000-07:00Oh Honey....I know this battle as I have sata list...Oh Honey....<BR/>I know this battle as I have sata listened to it over and over again with a great deal of my girlfriends....<BR/><BR/>But I have also listened to friends who have been adopted, fully grown wonderful caring loving friends....<BR/><BR/>I have known these friends all of my life... I have at least fifteen friends who were adopted...<BR/>and the thing that I find quite interesting... Pendullumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11833881250780345533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-7923880748075063992007-10-11T17:53:00.000-07:002007-10-11T17:53:00.000-07:00Hey girl, I just tagged you. HAhahahahah. :)Hey girl, I just tagged you. HAhahahahah. :)Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10780589302319316351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-19988571859077773382007-10-11T14:24:00.000-07:002007-10-11T14:24:00.000-07:00I would feel the same way as you, like anything, t...I would feel the same way as you, like anything, there are issues, worries, things to deal with...for me, it is a separated family, my children having their parents loving other people instead of their parents being together. She is yours because you chose her, you chose each other and she will always accept you and only you as her mother...my daughter has certain looks on her face that remind meStepping Over the Junkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09165163020885309533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-2039185232912037692007-10-11T06:56:00.000-07:002007-10-11T06:56:00.000-07:00i can't relate personally, but I have to wonder if...i can't relate personally, but I have to wonder if, years down the road, having a super sassy, beautiful first teacher, who happens to look like Eva, won't have been the greatest gift? it gives her one more fab woman to look up to (sans bratz doll image)- one with the same sense of fashion (like you), and great personality (like you) and self esteem (which you must have when leading a group of Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-29020446982070593192007-10-10T14:01:00.000-07:002007-10-10T14:01:00.000-07:00awww i totally get why you feel this way! heck som...awww i totally get why you feel this way! heck sometimes people like me with their own biological children feel like their kids dont look like them!Becky at lifeoutoffocushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08281237800161723776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-1624876911309639102007-10-10T12:19:00.000-07:002007-10-10T12:19:00.000-07:00I am 100% with you on Bratz, that's for sure.I don...I am 100% with you on Bratz, that's for sure.<BR/><BR/>I don't have any personal experience with adopted children, but I can speak as a fellow momma. As much as I want other people to love my children and for my kids to love them back, there's a tiny part of me that feels a bit jealous when I see it. I don't know why that is, but I recognize that it's irrational even as its happening. <BR/><BRAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-67097278083840031932007-10-10T09:00:00.000-07:002007-10-10T09:00:00.000-07:00I have the same feelings about my own kids. I don'...I have the same feelings about my own kids. I don't think it has anything to do with being an adoptive parent versus a biological parent. We don't want anyone to replace us or diminish us or have a greater sway over their emotions. For me it's with the 12-year old that my kids' dad thinks he's going to marry. She's closer in age to my kids than she is to being a parent to them. She's also soooo Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-30278080916723971602007-10-09T19:30:00.000-07:002007-10-09T19:30:00.000-07:00I *heart* Los. Well said.I *heart* Los. Well said.Shelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12607777608977352679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-88492288703515707552007-10-09T17:08:00.000-07:002007-10-09T17:08:00.000-07:00I'm pretty sure that Eva will always consider you ...I'm pretty sure that Eva will always consider you her mom, because you ARE her mom. Sure, not through DNA, but through love.Loshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16794387734217000502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-58430343113911749442007-10-09T15:45:00.000-07:002007-10-09T15:45:00.000-07:00I don't mean to miss the point here, but, "Only wi...I don't mean to miss the point here, but, "Only with legs" is fucking funny.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-47912279085033595922007-10-09T15:43:00.000-07:002007-10-09T15:43:00.000-07:00I understand. I remember thinking about those iss...I understand. I remember thinking about those issues coming up when I was adopting from China. The thing is (just as you know logically), she will be so much of you because of who you are. And who could be cooler than you to have as a mom? Truly.<BR/><BR/>And Brats dolls are whores.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-22920937049103743402007-10-09T12:45:00.000-07:002007-10-09T12:45:00.000-07:00I wouldn't have liked it either :( And I have a f...I wouldn't have liked it either :( And I have a feeling that Eva will never want another mommy but you. She might say she does, in a moment of teenage angst, but she won't mean it.Amy Yhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06303953793008491241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-27378545202389599112007-10-09T12:26:00.000-07:002007-10-09T12:26:00.000-07:00I think what you're feeling is completely normal, ...I think what you're feeling is completely normal, and at this age probably more evident to you than to Eva.<BR/><BR/>We all, adopted or not, identify with those who resemble us most and believe me, I've had my heart ripped out so many times when people say that my kids "don't look a thing like you". Seriously. If I kept track of it, it would be 9 times out of 10 that someone says that, even carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04038972194323564240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-8735578679127808362007-10-09T10:33:00.000-07:002007-10-09T10:33:00.000-07:00I know how completely un-nerving this is and I too...I know how completely un-nerving this is and I too get so tired of people looking for "that child's" mother when we are out in public. I get tired of the out and out stares of mostly older Asian folks who have this look of "that cannot be right" written all over their faces. It sometimes is not easy...and that is real. However, think about giving Eva the benefit of the doubt. She's smart...thePink Evitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13076882492061335110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-30108560667664229232007-10-09T10:10:00.000-07:002007-10-09T10:10:00.000-07:00Hi Kristin,My daughter is 2 years and 3 months tod...Hi Kristin,<BR/>My daughter is 2 years and 3 months today.<BR/><BR/>She is beautiful and perfect and gorgeously Chinese. I'm Italian and Irish.<BR/><BR/>Kelsey will never look like me, but my DH is half Filipino and she does look an awful lot like him...except her hair is medium brown and his is jet black.<BR/><BR/>While I will never be able to see my family resemblence in my daughter's smile...JoAnn in NJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10114295980713581767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-14285774276163723602007-10-09T07:06:00.000-07:002007-10-09T07:06:00.000-07:00I just want to say that you are an aweome Mom and ...I just want to say that you are an aweome Mom and are raising all your children with love. At the end of the day isn't that all that really matters? I think so.<BR/><BR/>And like somebody else commented before, having Eva bond with Miss Jodi may be a very good for thing for her, in terms of having a role model who is a good influence. It doesn't diminish the fact that you are in fact her motherPollyannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13746802517039945488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19846068.post-19781214505513281612007-10-09T06:55:00.000-07:002007-10-09T06:55:00.000-07:00Michelle and Kim,Thank you for sharing your views ...Michelle and Kim,<BR/><BR/>Thank you for sharing your views from the "other side of adoption"... I pray I do as good a job instilling love and security as your parents and that Eva grows up to share your outlook.<BR/><BR/>x.Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15120658117796151128noreply@blogger.com